I’m not suggesting that you take on board everything, or even most of what these authors have to say, but if you pick and choose ideas and try them out, you can start to find out what works for you in particular situations. Sometimes just reading the case studies makes life feel more normal, because others have ‘been there’ and survived. Many of the books are in the library, or secondhand on Amazon. I’ve included some YouTube links.
Esther Perel is an American couple therapist who writes so well about relationships. She has lots of great videos too. https://www.estherperel.com
Hold Me Tight Sue Johnson – useful ideas and exercises to help a couple get ‘reattached’
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Susan Jeffer’s book on overcoming fear and anxiety
Quiet The Mind – Matthew Johnstone on calming your thoughts through meditation
Alphabet of the Human Heart – Johnstone and Kerr naming things that make life worth living
Sod It! The depression ‘virus’ and how to deal with it – Martin Davies’ short, practical book on understanding depression and simple steps towards recovery
On improving self-confidence
Authentic– Stephen Joseph writes about how to ‘be yourself’ and stop being a ‘people pleaser’. It’s a book we can all get a lot out of.
The Chimp Paradox – Steve Peters’ great book on how ‘doing our best’ really is good enough
On anorexia/bulimia/eating disorders
Lighter than my Shadow – Katie Green’s graphic book about her experience and recovery
On living with children and teenagers
The Whole-Brain Child – Daniel Siegel on understanding your child’s behaviour and how to help him or her to cope with problems
On sex in relationships
Relate-trained counsellors need to be comfortable talking about sex because nearly every couple wants and needs to talk about it. The best, and most practical book I have read recently is:
Come as you are – Emily Nagoski’s practical, enjoyable, and really encouraging guide is strictly speaking about female sexuality, but based on client feed-back, men who are in a relationship with a woman find it pretty useful too.
Esther Perel’s books and her videos are all excellent on sex, intimacy and look at relationships in a really non-guilt-tripping way. https://www.estherperel.com
Some of us find ourselves, for all sorts of reasons, in relationships which are not sexually right for us…..
Straight Wives:Shattered Lives – Bonnie Kaye talks to women who have realised their partner is gay
Over The Cliff -Gay Men in Straight Marriages – Bonnie Kaye and Doug Dittmer listen to men who find their sexuality is causing them unhappiness in marriage